Positive Adoption Terminolgy 101

Questions well meaning people ask...And our answers!

Q) So you couldn't have you own?
A) They are our own.

(I really want to ask those who ask us this question - and have 2 children in tow is " Oh, so you've had sex twice?" No offense to the non-adoptive families here, but where does one draw the line on intrusive questions?) Feel free to comment! Really, this is the saddest question we are asked. Noah and Olivia are OURS. No difference. We love the different ways that our children made it into our family!

Q) How much did she cost?
A) SHE IS PRICELESS.

But if you would like to find out what the US Government charges for the services they require concerning international adoption, you can talk to me when the children are not around. ( I would never go up to a pregnant lady and ask her what her OBGYN is charging her! )

Q) Why did you adopt?
A) Because there are 140 million children who do not have a mom and/or dad to tuck them into bed at night.

140 million children do not have guidance, love or acceptance. We adults all complain that our world is going to Hell, but none of us are stepping up to the plate to change things. We, our family, want to be a part of the positive change in this world. One at a time. ...One at a time.

Q) Why don't you adopt an American child?
A) That is a very real question with a variety of answers.

Each family who chooses to adopt needs to find out what type of situation is right for them. International adoption appealed to us because, #1 we didn't feel the need to "blend in" and so we did not care if our children looked differently than us. #2 We felt an overwhelming need in the countries we have adopted from. God has put adoption in our hearts and he has led us to our children. We have been extremely blessed by listening to God's guidance. Our reasons for adopting are as personal as each person who gets pregnant. And our adoptions are as wonderful as each pregnancy! We hope that we educate everyone in this forum to understand that adoption is as real and tangible as pregnancy. Unfortunately, the adoptive parents do not usually benefit from all of the attention and concern that a pregnancy dictates, but they do go through the same set of stage by stage concerns. Often it is a very lonely journey...

(Copied, with permission, from http://www.ourferrisfamily.blogspot.com/; thanks to the Ferris Family)